To cultivate a healthy parenting style, there are two legs upon which healthy parenting should stand: Grace and Truth. This helps parenting to be a balanced one. In this blog post you are going to:
- Understand why parenting with grace and truth is important for your children.
- Identify that different parenting styles should be based on two factors.
- Understand and know how to avoid the extreme of parenting with truth without grace.
- Understand how to parent with grace and truth.
- Know how to identify your parenting style.
A. Why Parenting with Grace and Truth?
The first step in cultivating a healthy parenting style is to understand that parenting with grace and truth helps you model to your children how the Creator of the Universe interacts with his creatures.
Without truth, there is no need for grace, without grace, there is no hope. What does this implies, it means that if you don’t set a correct standard of living for your children, there will be no need to empower them to meet up with the standards you have set for them; and without you having plans to empower your children, they won’t have the hope to meet up with those standards.
Parenting with grace and truth helps you regulate appropriately the nature and behaviour of your children in a loving and warm manner.
B. The Two factors for Cultivating Healthy Parenting Style.
- Parental Demandingness (Truth): having clear expectations for your children’s behaviour.
- Parental Responsiveness (Grace): how loving and warm the parent’s relationship with the children is.
C. The extreme of parenting with truth without grace.
When there is parenting with truth without grace, parents tend to do the following:
- Make strict rules for the children.
- Expect obedience with little explanation of the purpose or reason for the rules.
- Have less responsiveness to the children or their reaction and punishment is often used when rules are broken.
D. How to parent with grace and truth.
- Establishing rules and expectations for the children but enforcing and establishing rules more collaboratively.
- Discipline is consistently applied but is more restorative than punitive.
- Nurturing and forgiving when children breaks the rules.
E. How to identify your parenting style.
- Identify your parenting style (and that of your spouse) in specific situations: bedtime, supper, homework, the child following through on something, cleanliness, time with their friends, etc.
- Do you and your spouse have similar or different parenting approaches?
- Your strength comes with a natural weakness. Knowing your tendencies are helpful.
- Spouses work together to illuminate strengths and work on weaknesses.
- Avoiding going to extremes to compensate for each other.
- Identify what parenting style you believe each of your children responds best to.
- Different situations and different children will require different parenting approaches.
When parents know how to stand upon these two legs (grace and truth) in parenting, they would have successfully cultivated a healthy parenting style.